Life philosophies worth learning from..

This article "My life philosophy: 50 lessons from 50 years" appeared on my RSS feed today.

The author shared a lots of good life principles, and I found many of them aligning to my own, or those that I love to adopt.

Here are my top 10 favourites life principles:

• Self-care comes first. If you're not healthy, it's tough to be happy. Before you can take care of your friends and your family, you need to take care of yourself. Eat well. Exercise. Nurture your mind, body, and spirit. Your body is a temple; treat it like one. If you don't have your health, you've got nothing.
• You get what you give. Your outer life is a reflection of your inner life. If you think the world is a shitty place, the world is going to be a shitty place. If you think people are out to get you, people will be out to get you. But if you believe people are basically good, you'll find that this is true wherever you go.
• Be impeccable with your word. Be honest — with yourself and others. If you promise to do something, do it. When somebody asks you a question, tell the truth. Practice what you preach. Avoid gossip.
• Don't take things personally. When people criticize you and your actions, it's not about you— it's about them. They can't know what it's like to be you and live your life. When you take things personally, you're allowing others to control your life and your happiness. Heed the Arab proverb: “The dogs bark but the caravan moves on.”
• Don't make assumptions. The flip side of not taking things personally is to not assume you know what's going on in other people's heads. Don't assume you know the motivations for their actions. Just as their reality doesn't reflect your reality, your life is not theirs. Give people the benefit of the doubt.
• Always do your best. Your best varies from moment to moment. Some days in the gym, for instance, I'm able to lift heavier weights than on other days. Some days I can run faster than usual; some days, I'm slower. That's okay. What matters most is that I give my best effort every time. No matter what you do, do it as well as you can. This is one of the keys to success and happiness.
• Action cures fear. Thought creates fear; action cures it. What we're actually afraid of is the unknown. We like certainty, and choosing to do something with an uncertain outcome makes us nervous. Taking the first step can be scary, but each additional step becomes easier and easier. When you act, you remove the mystery. Action creates confidence. It creates motivation. (Most people think motivation comes before action. They're wrong. Action leads to motivation.)
• You're more likely to regret the things you don't do than the things you do. That's not to say you should be an asshole, or that you won't regret making big mistakes. But generally speaking, you're more likely to be sorry that you didn't introduce yourself to the barista at the coffeehouse, didn't go bungee-jumping with your friends, didn't stay in touch with your friends. 
• Make room for the big rocks first. It's easy to let your time and energy be sucked up by trivial errands and tasks. You find you no longer have space for the things you thought were most important. Don't do that. Always carve out time and attention for those people and activities you value most. If the house doesn't get clean because you were hanging out with a friend, so what? If you didn't mow the lawn because you went to the gym instead, that's a good thing. Tackle the important, then the trivial.
• The meaning of life is the meaning you decide to give it. Some people are searchers. They wander through life looking for answers…but rarely find them. Others accept without question what an outside authority tells them is true. I believe that the meaning of life comes from within, from the things that you lean to prioritize and value. Nobody is going to tell you what life should mean to you; you have to decide that for yourself.

To be honest, there are many more good life principles listed in the article by the author, but there is one book that contains even better life principles, that is found in the Book of Proverbs in our bible.

You'll be happier if you focus on efforts and attention only on the things you can control....

Each of us has a large number of things about which we're concerned: our health, our family, our friends, our jobs; world affairs, the plight of the poor, the threat of terrorism, the current political climate. 

Within that Circle of Concern, there is only a smaller subset of things over which we have actual and direct control, such as how much we exercise, what time we go to bed, whether we leave for work on time; what we eat, where we live, with whom we socialise. 

You'll be happier and more productive if you dedicate yourself to your Circle of Control and ignore your Circle of Concern.

Excerpts from "My life philosophy: 50 lessons from 50 years"

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How to achieve more in life - its time to get SMART!

​We are struggle for time in our busy lives. We are either busy to finish our tasks at work, or we are busy with our family chores. For some, it may be a case of finding enough time to spend time with their love ones, or even finding time to work on their life goals or aspirations. 

I constantly find it tough to get all the things I want to do completed. There are "projects" that I have started at home but never finished. I would love to reorganise in my closet or my kitchen pantry but never quite find the time to do it. Then, there is also my career aspiration, my personal bucket lists to tick off, and most importantly, relationship building with the Lord, yes, I am a bible beliving, Christ fellowing Christian.

Time and time again, I will reflect on my life, where I am, how I am currently going, and what am I going to do about stuff that are yet unaccomplished and undone.

I often share something with folks around me, or to those poor souls who happen to unwittedly seek advice from me, we need to be SMART about things!

SMART, or rather the, the acronym  - S.M.A.R.T  - really stands for:

   Specific

   Measurable

   Achieveable

   Result Focus (can also be Relevant)

   Time-bound

It is all about asking ourselves these questions:

1. Specific - What am I trying to accomplish? What's my goal, How and why will it be accomplished?

2. Measurable -  How will I measure whether I have reached my goal? What are the key indicators?

3. Achievable -  Is it possible, is it realistic, has it been done before by others? Am I just a dreamer?  Am I ready or capable to do it? Do I have the necessary knowledge, skills, abilities and resources to accomplish the goal? Will meeting the goal challenge me without defeating me?

4. Result Focused - What is the reason, purpose or benefit of accomplishing the goal? Is it personal development or ego? What will reaching the goal brings me and what sacrifices do I have to make?

5. Time bound (Time-boxing) -  What is the established completion date? Are there any urgency to complete it, how long do I have to complete it?

Sounds like a business oriented management speak? Perhaps. But perhaps this is a technique that successful people have picked up, that I can learn to utilise in my daily life. Perhaps if I have the discipline to follow this SMART way of doing things. I could achieve much more outcome that I have always wanted or dreamt of doing.

Challenging myself to think differently!

I often find myself reverting back to my comfort zone or doing something I am customed to the same way, the same method, the same process, everytime.  We are taught and trained in schools to "follow the process", to align what we do "according to the best practices".  This is not wrong by any measures, but do we sometimes pause to evaluate and think about what we do, and figure out if there are actually better ways of doing things that we are not aware of, or are we too busy to consider what we do and determine if the process needs to change?

How often when things are not working, or when some process is broken, we often try to remediate them by adding more processes, more steps to try to overcome the situation.  It's crazy.

This reminds me of a famous quote “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

Perhaps we need to pause and think through what we do, we need to constantly evaluate how we do things and if our processes, the methodologies are still relevant, effective and right. We need to challenge ourselves to "think outside the box" and to avoid "group think".  We need to have the courage to change, and most importantly, not afraid to learn new things, new ways to do things differently. We need to cast away the mindset that  "you can't teach old dogs new tricks", be bold and courageous to try new ways, new methods, new processes. We might even surprise ourselves.